Men and Porn Addiction
Rebecca Bent, relationship expert and CEO of the Handel Group, talks about men and addiction to pornography.
“It’s incredibly sad,” Rebecca says. “A lot of men say they are not in relationships, but what they don’t realize is that they are in a relationship. They are in a relationship with pornography.”
They’re watching porn to fill a void in their life. Often it’s a lack of satisfaction with the sex they’re having – or not having – with their partner.
It’s common now for a boy’s first relationship to not be with a physical human being but with pornography. Boys sometimes start watching porn as young as age 11. This warps their idea of women and relationships.
In porn, the woman will always say “Yes” and do whatever the man wants. This keeps young men from going out and meeting and interacting with real women.
But, the problem isn’t limited to men alone — 40 percent of women don’t have vaginal orgasms. Many women also rely on pornography and vibrators and self-stimulation instead of telling their partner what they want. It’s the conversation, talk, communication, that’s the most important thing in a sexual relationship.
But, it’s important for people who are dealing with an addiction to pornography to know that they are not alone in this. People need to understand that this is a physical, emotional, and mental issue and that other people share their problem. Help can be found.
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